I swear sometimes. Sometimes I swear a lot. I don’t swear much on my blog though, and I’m not really sure why. There is a blog post I want to write. I’ve been thinking about it for a while now, and every time I think about it a lot of swear words come to mind. Then I think “oh, I can’t write a blog post full of swear words” and then I think, “why not?”
One of my kids asked me one day, “Why is the f-word a bad word?” I had to really think about this one. Why is the f-word a bad word? How do words become bad? What I came up with – quickly on the spot – is this: the f-word can hurt peoples’ feelings and when you use swear words, sometimes people make judgements about you; sometimes people think you’re not nice or you’re not smart when you use bad words. Having had the chance to think about it some more, I’m not sure if that was the best answer but it was the one I gave at the time and the kids seemed satisfied with it.
Here’s the thing: swear words are just words.
No seriously, hear me out. I can use the work frack, or frig, or frick and all of these are a-okay but fuck is a whole different story. Why? They all mean exactly the same thing! Same with “oh, shoot” and “oh, shit”; they mean the same thing. One is “acceptable” and one is not. For some reason, our society has deemed these words “bad” and I guess that’s that.
The radio version of Hedley’s Cha-Ching bleeps out three words: ass, lesbian and fuck. (Funny, the YouTube version only bleeps out fuck. Varying degrees of “bad” when it comes to words, I suppose.) Lesbian, a bad word? Really?
There are lots of bad things in this world that I don’t want my kids to see and hear. Lesbians are not one of those things. The word fuck also isn’t one of those things.
Don’t get me wrong; we’re not sitting around the dinner table saying “Will you please pass the fucking salt?” or “How the fuck was your day today?” I generally don’t swear around my parents, or my in-laws or when I’m talking to the kids’ teacher. Obviously there are times when “bad” words aren’t appropriate. But if my kids hear the odd f-word, I think its fine. Personally, I’d much rather hear kids say that something is “fucking awesome” than hear them tell each other to “shut-up”. Hmm, I guess there are varying degrees of bad words.
So there, I’ve said it. I swear.
Don’t be surprised if you see a blog post with lots of swear words sometimes soon.